Honestly what sparks my interest is a very good looking man with an incredible body, especially broad shoulders and strong biceps. It really takes a lot to turn my head, though.
It has nothing to do with being picky or thinking I am only worthy of good looking men. It just is.
But see, that’s just at first glance.
If I were to talk to any of these guys and they were rude, crass, uninteresting, mean, lame, uneducated, racist… I would not be interested.
I will talk to anyone that approaches me. [Well, except I was a total idiot with that guy at yoga! I am still hoping to run into him again!]
I am more interested in someone I click with. Someone that makes great conversation, is fun, and someone up for anything!
If they talk about money at all, I am not interested. It has been my experience that anyone that talks a lot about money does not have any.
Same with name dropping all sorts of famous people they know. Doesn’t interest me.
If they are too boastful about anything I am not interested.
Similar to the money thing, my experience has always been that anyone who talks too much about anything is trying to pull a fast one over you.
I am not into political discussions and arguments – so that’s out.
He should not be a liar. Even one lie at the beginning will turn me off. I will always wonder if they are telling the truth.
What I do like in a man?
Eyes that are honest and that I can lose myself when looking into them.
I like a great sense of humor. Not obvious jokes, but dry humor. Clever, but not condescending or demeaning articulation.
Someone that is educated, but that doesn’t mean he must have a PHD, an MBA or even a college degree. Life experiences are a better educator.
I like interesting people with hobbies. Very few people have any hobbies at all.
They should be athletic. I am. If they aren’t, I don’t see us having much in common.
Age doesn’t really matter. Though I haven’t dated in a while, I have dated anywhere from 15 years older than me (though that was 13 years ago) to 10 years younger than me (just last year – yes, high-five ladies!). I will say the younger ones are a bit immature (but the sex is amazing!), and now the older ones, well, I am not interested in being someone’s trophy girlfriend. If I am going to be with someone, we should be partners, friends.
I like someone who reveals something personal and heartfelt when you are first talking with them.
I like good manners. I am also feminist-like, though. I can get my own door, I can get my own drink, I can pay for my own dinner, I can drive myself…
But if he is interested in me, he should offer to buy me a drink. (I’ll get the next round, seriously.)
If we walk through a door, he should offer to hold it open for me. (I will return the favor.)
If he wants to take me on a date, he should offer to pick me up. I will accept. He should also pay on the first date, even though I will offer. (I will get the next one.)
He should be polite and a gentleman.
He should be considerate of diet restrictions. They aren’t because I just decided one day I wanted to eat this way. I have a lot of food sensitivities and allergies. I am not pleased with it myself. It can be annoying, but I deal with it by not making it anyone else’s problem. If by chance I get sick, the night’s over.
If he wants to kiss me, cinnamon is out. I am allergic – I will usually explain this to any have shown interest in me. I am not bossy or mean about, I will simply state in a joking manner – “if you want to kiss me later, please no cinnamon! Toothpaste, gum, mints, hot damn…”
I prefer that he is not out dating and courting a bunch of other women at the same time as me. I get it, many like to test a whole bunch of different women out until they find the one that clicks. It just doesn’t work for me.
And the sex? It better be amazing. I cannot be with someone that I do not have a lot of physical chemistry with.
What attracts you?